a total disappearing act
maggie- this is what you have to look forward to (dont let it scare you)
amanda - this is in hopes that this will offer a little comfort
emily - can you back back me up on this stuff
whoever else is reading this - leave a comment once in awhile so I know you are reading... :)
today is all about the top 11 things you lose when you have a baby (originally it was 10, but I thought of something else I added in)
1. sleep - this is an obvious one that everyone tells you about, and alot of soon to be dads say 'its ok, Im used to staying up' let me tell you there is a big difference in staying up b/c you want to and someone keeping you up... you know those younger days when you were at a sleepover or at camp and you were trying to sleep, but there were one or two people who kept talking and you were always yelling "shut up!" and they never would - its kind of like that, except now you cant yell or get mad, just get up with a smile on your face and be happy
2. your husband - yep, you lose your husband, and gain a dad... which is good in ways if that happens (if he doesnt turn into a dad, he will revert to a guy altogether, so still no husband), but on your date nights, he will worry about the baby or whatever - no more interest in you - you are now second (which is ok, but sometimes you also need a little attention)
3. romance - once you lose your husband, you will lose any sort of romantic/sweetness he had ever remotely thought about doing - lets be honest, it takes effort for guys to think of something romantic or sweet to do, its just not their natural nature... this kills it altogether... although he will still want sex (never pushy about it though)
4. your organization and space - thats right - you will have to lug 20 pounds of a diaper bag around and you will lose anything else that matters (especially if its a paper(s) that you need to keep up with)... and for no apparent reason, your purse will now contain everything under the sun - the last time I cleaned out my purse I found a comb, toothbrush and paste, socks for me and the baby, an extra pacifier, and lots of other odds and ends that you do not normally carry or necessarily know how they got there, same thing happens with your car and house - your house will never be clean again - its a vicious cycle that once you get one room clean and you start on another, the first room will be messy again before you get the other one finished
5. time - mark my words, no matter how hard you try, you will never have enough time for anything ever again
6. money - this one isnt that hard to get - just be prepared, no more eating out, going to movies or power shopping...
7. arguments with your in laws and/or parents - especially if you dont already get along (like me and my mother in law) b/c everything you do or say with this child will not be right - you will only hear about how they did things and blah blah blah
8. almost all adult conversation - b/c all single or couple (w/out kids) in your life will assume since you had a baby, you like kids and want to be around them all the time, so you will be grouped with the kids, or in the other room with the baby all by yourself... or if they dont do this and do talk to you, they will ask you the same questions about the baby over and over again, so still no adult conversation... treasure any friends who still treat you like an adult...
9. any type of peace at all - whether its them crying or getting into something or you wondering why they are being so quiet
10. your fear of anything remotely gross - yep, spit up, poop and boogers will no longer be looked upon with disdain and you will just learn to laugh when you get peed on (if you have a boy)...
11. your heart - yep, its true, from now on they will have your heartstrings wrapped around their little finger...
its all worth it, but I still wish someone would have told me beforehand so I could be a little bit more prepared - but then again, is that even remotely possible...
so yeah, no regrets, but it is hard, I dont see how single parents do it - my hats off to them...
*on a non-related note: I hate when people use the word "anxious" incorrectly... anxious means that you are excited about something in a bad way (I was anxious about going to the dentist), eager means you are excited about something in a good way (I am eager to go to the dance with billy).... argh - get it right, people!
note: this is not directly pointed at someone, it just gets on my nerves
amanda - this is in hopes that this will offer a little comfort
emily - can you back back me up on this stuff
whoever else is reading this - leave a comment once in awhile so I know you are reading... :)
today is all about the top 11 things you lose when you have a baby (originally it was 10, but I thought of something else I added in)
1. sleep - this is an obvious one that everyone tells you about, and alot of soon to be dads say 'its ok, Im used to staying up' let me tell you there is a big difference in staying up b/c you want to and someone keeping you up... you know those younger days when you were at a sleepover or at camp and you were trying to sleep, but there were one or two people who kept talking and you were always yelling "shut up!" and they never would - its kind of like that, except now you cant yell or get mad, just get up with a smile on your face and be happy
2. your husband - yep, you lose your husband, and gain a dad... which is good in ways if that happens (if he doesnt turn into a dad, he will revert to a guy altogether, so still no husband), but on your date nights, he will worry about the baby or whatever - no more interest in you - you are now second (which is ok, but sometimes you also need a little attention)
3. romance - once you lose your husband, you will lose any sort of romantic/sweetness he had ever remotely thought about doing - lets be honest, it takes effort for guys to think of something romantic or sweet to do, its just not their natural nature... this kills it altogether... although he will still want sex (never pushy about it though)
4. your organization and space - thats right - you will have to lug 20 pounds of a diaper bag around and you will lose anything else that matters (especially if its a paper(s) that you need to keep up with)... and for no apparent reason, your purse will now contain everything under the sun - the last time I cleaned out my purse I found a comb, toothbrush and paste, socks for me and the baby, an extra pacifier, and lots of other odds and ends that you do not normally carry or necessarily know how they got there, same thing happens with your car and house - your house will never be clean again - its a vicious cycle that once you get one room clean and you start on another, the first room will be messy again before you get the other one finished
5. time - mark my words, no matter how hard you try, you will never have enough time for anything ever again
6. money - this one isnt that hard to get - just be prepared, no more eating out, going to movies or power shopping...
7. arguments with your in laws and/or parents - especially if you dont already get along (like me and my mother in law) b/c everything you do or say with this child will not be right - you will only hear about how they did things and blah blah blah
8. almost all adult conversation - b/c all single or couple (w/out kids) in your life will assume since you had a baby, you like kids and want to be around them all the time, so you will be grouped with the kids, or in the other room with the baby all by yourself... or if they dont do this and do talk to you, they will ask you the same questions about the baby over and over again, so still no adult conversation... treasure any friends who still treat you like an adult...
9. any type of peace at all - whether its them crying or getting into something or you wondering why they are being so quiet
10. your fear of anything remotely gross - yep, spit up, poop and boogers will no longer be looked upon with disdain and you will just learn to laugh when you get peed on (if you have a boy)...
11. your heart - yep, its true, from now on they will have your heartstrings wrapped around their little finger...
its all worth it, but I still wish someone would have told me beforehand so I could be a little bit more prepared - but then again, is that even remotely possible...
so yeah, no regrets, but it is hard, I dont see how single parents do it - my hats off to them...
*on a non-related note: I hate when people use the word "anxious" incorrectly... anxious means that you are excited about something in a bad way (I was anxious about going to the dentist), eager means you are excited about something in a good way (I am eager to go to the dance with billy).... argh - get it right, people!
note: this is not directly pointed at someone, it just gets on my nerves
posted by dangermama at 1:58 PM
4 Comments:
Hey Addie!! So good to hear from you; I love your blog:) I added you to my links!!
kim - so glad you wrote... glad to hear from you... :)
maggie - daniel was the sweetest guy ever while I was pregnant - everyone around me marveled at how sweet and spoiling he was - which all transfered to gabe once he got here... yeah, our relationship is definetly stronger too... I think you and joey will be fine though, you seem to fit together really well
I agree with everything you've said...but need to add a thought or two...
Privacy...I never ever thought I would take another human being into the bathroom with me just so I could watch them while I did my business
Dignity...if the spread-eagled ages in the delivery room/exam rooms weren't enough, the fact that your breasts are now community property and everyone in the house is hoping you will be able to poop like you did before you were pregnant will certainly acquaint you with openness.
ha ha... yeah, emily - I agree totally... :)
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